Love or Respect?

Assalamualaikum and Hello everyone :)

The tummy is growing bigger each day and Alhamdulillah I am now in my 5th months.

Yesterday me and the husband was watching The Bachelor Japan Edition. Basically the programe was about a bunch of ladies who compete among each other to win one man's love. Yeah that guy might be rich and famous. lol. And that dude will date all the ladies to figure out if he is compatible with her wtf I feel like this programe is tacky.

So I popped a question to my husband:

"If you were about to choose, would you choose someone who loves you; or would you choose someone who respects you?"

The husband took some time to think. And while he was making descision, I went to the dressing room and prepare his work attire.

You know what was his answer?

He said would pick someone who loves him.

There is no wrong or right answer as the question was about personal choice. But as for me, I would pick someone who respect me.

Why?

We easily confused with affection and respect. We thought those two are the same. Yea if you love me you would do this if you love me you wouldn't do this yadda yadda.

Affection is a feeling towards someone you really fond of. Some would do crazy things for love, but still end up being dumped or cheated. Why?

Well because there is no respect between them.

Love and just love alone is not enough. In fact, it will go nowhere. Like, I love you but I'm going out with another guy behind your back. Yes I love you but I am eyeing someone else too. Of course I love you but I would still hurt your feelings.

Why we cheat?

Because there is no respect to our partner, we didn't even respect the bond that we have. Thus explains why I'd choose someone who respect me as the answer.

I do believe that mutual respect and consistency in a relationship could sparks love, strengthen the affection and yeah, brings sense of security and joy into a couple's life.

So I'll stop being Dr Love here. Bye.

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

With All My Might

Assalamualaikum and Hello, It is now 4.30 in the morning, the husband and the baby is fast asleep and I am still here typing some feed for Chasing Heaven. Earlier today we went to met the sonographer for detailed scan. Alhamdulillah, I couldnt be happier. The pregnancy experience this time is totally different from the first one. I am happier, more relaxed, I focus more on myself, and this is one of the best thing that ever happened in my life.  Thank you Husband for being the best I could imagine. Thank you for working so hard for us; through rain or sunshine; through it all. My only prayer for you is I am hoping that Allah will always protect you no matter where you are, and may there will always be kind hearted people around you where you need help. Always be safe, and remember home as our humble safe heaven.  ❤ Remember, I may not be strong, but I will take care of you, and I will protect you with all my might. And this applies to the boys too ❤❤
Read more

No More Cooking

Image
Assalamualaikum and Hello, Being a working mother is not easy. There are so many things that I need to take care of. The work itself already drains me out. And when I reached home, I need to do the housechores, kemas this and that, buang sampah all the things; my energy depleted. Seriously I'm that weak. Another thing is, this nauseous feeling and vomiting till nothing left in my stomach. Lol. Baby baby, please be kind to mommy. Love you, Luv. All these thing somehow make me realize one important thing. Before I got pregnant, my daily routine after work includes cleaning, do laundry, go buy groceries, prepare dinner no matter what time it is; may it be 8pm, 10pm, 1am, 3am, 4am - as the husband working on shift.. so, yeah. I am quite consistent in making his tummy filled with home cooked meals. I mean, tak semua working mother and wife yang boleh bangun masak lemak cili padi, asam pedas ayam, buttermilk chicken, or as easy as nasi goreng kampung when she got an opt...
Read more

Pesan Mommy

Image
Assalamualaikum and Hello, A mother is always a mother; may it be stepmother, biological mother, foster mother, and anything that people call it. Being a mother, I always have that protective, caring side of me towards all the kids around me. Even dengan anak jiran pun I bahasakan diri I as mommy. And yes, termasuklah dengan anak staff kedai waffle yang I pergi tadi. Motherhood creates you a wholesome person. Same thing about nurturing Hazeeq about his fathers. I tak pernah didik Hazeeq untuk membezakan kasih Daddy and Papa. Daddy is Daddy, Papa is Papa; both men deserves equal love and respect. Daddy has left us due to terminal illness; mommy has done the best that mommy could do to save him, but Allah loves him more. Despite the sadness and tears, Allah send Papa as a gift for us. So we have someone who will protect us, to guide us, to love us and for us to have a complete family that we never had the chance to have. No such thing as bapa tiri or bapa kandung love. Resp...
Read more